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WholeHumanMama.com and GraemeSeabrook.com is owned by Graeme Seabrook (“Company”, “we”, or “us”). The term “you” refers to the user or viewer of WholeHumanMama.com and GraemeSeabrook.com (“Website”).

This Privacy Policy describes how we collect, use, process, and distribute your information, including Personal Data (as defined below) used to access this Website. We will not use or share your information with anyone except as described in this Privacy Policy. The use of information collected through our Sites shall be limited to the purposes under this Privacy Policy and our Terms of Service to customers.

Please read this Privacy Policy carefully. We reserve the right to change this Privacy Policy on the Website at any time without notice. In the event of a material change, we will let you know via email and/or a prominent notice on our Website.

Use of any personal information or contribution that you provide to us, or which is collected by us on or through our Website or its content is governed by this Privacy Policy. By using our Website or its content, you consent to this Privacy Policy, whether or not you have read it.

Information We May Collect
We collect personal information from you so that we can provide you with a positive experience when utilizing our Website or content. We will only collect the minimum amount of information necessary for us to fulfill our obligation to you. We may collect:

  • A name and an email address so we can deliver our emails to you — you would be affirmatively consenting to this by providing this to us in our contact forms.
  • Billing information including name, address, and credit card information so that we can process payment to deliver our products or services to you under our contractual obligation.
  • A name and an email address if you complete our contact form with a question. We may send you marketing emails with either your consent or if we believe we have a legitimate interest to contact you based on your contact or question.
  • Information from you from a co-branded offer. In this case, we will make clear as to who is collecting the information and whose privacy policy applies. If both / all parties are retaining the information you provide, this will also be made clear as will links to all privacy policies.

Please note that the information above (“Personal Data”) that you are giving to us is voluntarily, and by providing this information to us, you are giving consent for us to use, collect, and process this Personal Data. You are welcome to opt-out or request for us to delete your Personal Data at any point by contacting us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

If you choose not to provide us with certain Personal Data, you may not be able to participate in certain aspects of our Website or content.

Other Information We May Collect:

Anonymous Data Collection and Use
To maintain Website quality, we may use your IP address to help diagnose problems with our server, to administer the Website by identifying which areas of the Website are most heavily used, and to display content according to your preferences. Your IP address is the number assigned to computers connected to the Internet. This is essentially “traffic data” which cannot personally identify you but is helpful to us for marketing purposes and for improving our services. Traffic data collection does not follow a user’s activities on any other websites in any way. Anonymous traffic data may also be shared with business partners and advertisers on an aggregate basis.

Use of “Cookies”
We may use the standard “cookies” feature of major web browsers. We do not set any personally identifiable information in cookies, nor do we employ any data-capture mechanisms on our Website other than cookies. You may choose to disable cookies through your own web browser’s settings. However, disabling this function may diminish your experience on our Website and some features may not work as intended.

What We Do With Information We Collect

Contact You

We may contact you with information that you provide to us based on these lawful grounds for processing:

  • We may contact you if you give us your clear, unambiguous, affirmative consent to contact you.
  • We will contact you under our contractual obligation to deliver goods or services you purchase from us.
  • Legitimate Interest. We may contact you if we feel you have a legitimate interest in hearing from us. For example, if you sign up for a webinar, we may send you marketing emails based on the content of that webinar.  You will always have the option to opt out of any of our emails.

Process Payments
We will use the Personal Data you give to us in order to process your payment for the purchase of goods or services under a contract. We only use third party payment processors that take the utmost care in securing data and comply with the GDPR.

Targeted Social Media Advertisements
We may use the data you provide to us to run social media advertisements and / or create look-alike audiences for advertisements.

Share with Third Parties
We may share your information with trusted third parties such as our newsletter provider in order to contact you via email, our merchant accounts to process payments, and Google / social media accounts in order to run advertisements and our affiliates.

Viewing by Others
Note that whenever you voluntarily make your Personal Data available for viewing by others online through this Website or its content, it may be seen, collected and used by others, and therefore, we cannot be responsible for any unauthorized or improper use of the information that you voluntarily share (i.e., sharing a comment on a blog post, posting in a Facebook group that we manage, sharing details on a group coaching call, etc.).

Submission, Storage, Sharing and Transferring of Personal Data
Personal Data that you provide to us is stored internally or through a data management system. Your Personal Data will only be accessed by those who help to obtain, manage, or store that information, or who have a legitimate need to know such Personal Data (i.e., our hosting provider, newsletter provider, payment processors, or team members).

It is important to note that we may transfer data internationally. For users in the European Union, please be aware that we transfer Personal Data outside of the European Union. By using our Website and providing us with your Personal Data, you consent to these transfers in accordance with this Privacy Policy.

Data Retention
We retain your Personal Data for the minimum amount of time necessary to provide you with the information and / or services that you requested from us. We may include certain Personal Data for longer periods of time if necessary for legal, contractual, and accounting obligations.

Confidentiality
We aim to keep the Personal Data that you share with us confidential. Please note that we may disclose such information if required to do so by law or in the good-faith belief that: (1) such action is necessary to protect and defend our rights or property or those of our users or licensees, (2) to act as immediately necessary in order to protect the personal safety or rights of our users or the public, or (3) to investigate or respond to any real or perceived violation of this Privacy Policy or of our Disclaimer, Terms and Conditions, or any other terms of use or agreement with us.

Passwords
To use certain features of the Website or its content, you may need a username and password. You are responsible for maintaining the confidentiality of the username and password, and you are responsible for all activities, whether by you or by others, that occur under your username or password and within your account. We cannot and will not be liable for any loss or damage arising from your failure to protect your username, password, or account information. If you share your username or password with others, they may be able to obtain access to your Personal Data at your own risk.

You agree to notify us immediately of any unauthorized or improper use of your username or password or any other breach of security. To help protect against unauthorized or improper use, make sure that you log out at the end of each session requiring your username and password.

We will use our best efforts to keep your username and password(s) private and will not otherwise share your password(s) without your consent, except as necessary when the law requires it or in the good faith belief that such action is necessary, particularly when disclosure is necessary to identify, contact, or bring legal action against someone who may be causing injury to others or interfering with our rights or property.

How You Can Access, Update, or Delete Your Personal Data

You have the right to:

  • Request information about how your Personal Data is being used and request a copy of what Personal Data we use.
  • Restrict processing if you think the Personal Data is not accurate, unlawful, or no longer needed.
  • Rectify or erase Personal Data and receive confirmation of the rectification or erasure. (You have the “right to be forgotten.”)
  • Withdraw your consent at any time to the processing of your Personal Data.
  • Lodge a complaint with a supervisory authority if you feel we are using your Personal Data unlawfully.
  • Receive Personal Data portability and transference to another controller without our hindrance.
  • Object to our use of your Personal Data.
  • Not be subject to an automated decision based solely on automatic processing, including profiling, which legally or significantly affects you.

You may unsubscribe from our emails or updates at any time through the unsubscribe link at the footer of all email communications. If you have questions or are experiencing problems unsubscribing, please contact us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

Security
We take commercially reasonable steps to protect the Personal Data you provide to us from misuse, disclosure, or unauthorized access. We only share your Personal Data with trusted third parties who use the same level of care in processing your Personal Data. That being said, we cannot guarantee that your Personal Data will always be secure due to technology or security breaches. Should there be a data breach of which we are aware, we will inform you immediately.

Anti-Spam Policy
We have a no spam policy and provide you with the ability to opt-out of our communications by selecting the unsubscribe link at the footer of all emails. We have taken the necessary steps to ensure that we are compliant with the CAN-SPAM Act of 2003 by never sending out misleading information. We will not sell, rent, or share your email address.

Third Party Websites
We may link to other websites on our Website. We have no responsibility or liability for the content and activities of any other individual, company, or entity whose website or materials may be linked to our Website or its content, and thus we cannot be held liable for the privacy of the information on their website or that you voluntarily share with their website. Please review their privacy policies for guidelines as to how they respectively store, use, and protect the privacy of your Personal Data.

Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act Compliance
We do not collect any information from anyone under 18 years of age in compliance with COPPA (Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act) and the GDPR (General Data Protection Regulation of the EU). Our Website and its content is directed to individuals who are at least 18 years old or older.

Notification of Changes
We may use your Personal Data, such as your contact information, to inform you of changes to the Website or its content, or, if requested, to send you additional information about us. We reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to change, modify, or otherwise alter our Website, its content, and this Privacy Policy at any time. Such changes and/or modifications shall become effective immediately upon posting our updated Privacy Policy. Please review this Privacy Policy periodically. Continued use of any of information obtained through or on the Website or its content following the posting of changes and/or modifications constituted acceptance of the revised Privacy Policy. Should there be a material change to our Privacy Policy, we will contact you via email or by a prominent note on our Website.

Data Controller and Processors
We are the data controllers as we are collecting and using your Personal Data. We use trusted third parties as our data processors for technical and organizational purposes, including for payments and email marketing. We use reasonable efforts to make sure our data processors are GDPR-compliant.If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, please contact us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

Last Updated: January 2025

Getting Out of the House

Say it with me now: Lists are your friend.
January 16, 2025

This was originally published on my old blog between 2012 and 2020.

You want to get out of the house. No, you need to get out of the house.

Maybe it's for a date night, quiet time alone, girls’ night out, or a family vacation. But every time you try to get out of the house for some self-care, you wind up frustrated, stressed out, and pissed off! Why? Because you're the one doing all the work and dealing with all of the last-minute challenges and frustrations while everyone else simply shows up and has fun.

It doesn't have to be like this.

THE FOUR STEPS TO FREEDOM

Those who fail to plan are planning to fail. I don't know who said it originally, but I do know that my dad said it to me enough that I cannot hear it in anything other than his voice. Maybe that's why I love lists so much. Nothing is satisfying in quite the same way as crossing an item off of a list. Lists and deadlines are the basis and the key to this plan. Are you ready?

STEP 1: PICK A DATE.

This system works when you get to choose a date (girls’ night out, date night) and when you don't (business trip, weddings, family reunions). In any case you want to have as much planning time as possible, I suggest at least one month in advance.

STEP 2: MAKE THE META-LIST

The Meta-List (ML) is simply a list of all the lists you will make. This is an overview of everything that needs to get done before you can leave the house stress-free.

For example: Say Dork Dad and I want to go to dinner and a movie and have the house to ourselves, that Meta-List might look like this:

Budget, Childcare, Food, House, Son, Daughter, Date

Once I've made the ML, I generally check in with Dork Dad to see if there's anything I've forgotten. We have two young children and are almost always working through some form of sleep deprivation, so double-checking is necessary.

STEP 3: MAKE SUBLISTS WITH DEADLINES

As for what, exactly, should be on each Sublist — well, that's up to you. I get detailed. I get very, very detailed.

For example, when I create the list for packing my kids’ clothing, I write down the exact shirt, shorts, color of socks, pair of underwear, etc. That is what works for me. You can write, "clothes for kids" or you can write, "3 shirts, 3 shorts, 3 socks.” You can get super detailed on one Sublist and be really general on another. At this point the rules are up to you.

A Few Tips:
  • Put aside money each week (or each payday) for your event and there will be less scrambling on the day of to check credit card balances and or try to do things inexpensively.
  • If you are traveling, I suggest getting a Groupon for a cleaning service to come in either the day you leave or the day you return. If you have a regular cleaning service, have them come to the house while you're gone. This is also something you can budget for.
  • Separate your Sublists into Pre-pack and Day Of. Anything that can be done ahead of time… DO IT.

I cannot stress enough how important deadlines are to this process. Doing a few things each week is simple, but if you try pulling everything together the day of, frustration and overwhelm will take over.

STEP 4: THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP.

DIVIDE AND CONQUER THE LIST.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT attempt to complete these lists by yourself (unless you live alone or are the only person over the age of five in your house).

Children can pack for themselves with supervision. Teens can pack for themselves and take responsibility for a Sublist. If there are two adults in the house, the list should be split very nearly evenly. This works with roommates, lovers, spouses — anyone.

*Disclaimer: I am horrible at this. You may have guessed by now I like control. In the beginning, I gave Dork Dad one Sublist to handle. Things were better, but I was still tired and a little annoyed by the time we left for our date/trip/etc. Things didn't really change until we started sitting down together after the Sublists were complete and I allowed him to claim half of them.

Decide who will do what. How will you check things off? Once everything on a list is checked off, the header gets checked off on the Meta-List. Your goal is for the ML to be totally checked off by 48 hours BEFORE the date night or family vacation, etc.

HERE’S HOW AND WHY THIS WORKS (FOR ME):

I like having control of the details. I like being able to see our progress. Having the lists, being able to check things against the list as many times as I need to — that helps me calm my anxiety. Working on this together helps me to not feel so alone in the planning and parenting part.

We put all of our deadlines on our Google Calendar because we are both constantly on our phones and computers, but you could put this on a regular old calendar on your wall, or write it on a piece of paper. When the deadlines come up we make sure our tasks are done and cross them off of the calendar. If they aren’t and we need help, we ask for it.

Planning ahead leaves plenty of time for things to blow up, for me to freak out about it, calm down, ask for help, fix the problem, and move on. That process can take a while, so I build in the time.

We do some version of this for his business trips, my business trips, our date nights, family trips, and vacations. Giving ourselves as much time as possible to plan means less overwhelm. Less overwhelm means a happier family. Who doesn't want that?

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