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WholeHumanMama.com and GraemeSeabrook.com is owned by Graeme Seabrook (“Company”, “we”, or “us”). The term “you” refers to the user or viewer of WholeHumanMama.com and GraemeSeabrook.com (“Website”).

This Privacy Policy describes how we collect, use, process, and distribute your information, including Personal Data (as defined below) used to access this Website. We will not use or share your information with anyone except as described in this Privacy Policy. The use of information collected through our Sites shall be limited to the purposes under this Privacy Policy and our Terms of Service to customers.

Please read this Privacy Policy carefully. We reserve the right to change this Privacy Policy on the Website at any time without notice. In the event of a material change, we will let you know via email and/or a prominent notice on our Website.

Use of any personal information or contribution that you provide to us, or which is collected by us on or through our Website or its content is governed by this Privacy Policy. By using our Website or its content, you consent to this Privacy Policy, whether or not you have read it.

Information We May Collect
We collect personal information from you so that we can provide you with a positive experience when utilizing our Website or content. We will only collect the minimum amount of information necessary for us to fulfill our obligation to you. We may collect:

  • A name and an email address so we can deliver our emails to you — you would be affirmatively consenting to this by providing this to us in our contact forms.
  • Billing information including name, address, and credit card information so that we can process payment to deliver our products or services to you under our contractual obligation.
  • A name and an email address if you complete our contact form with a question. We may send you marketing emails with either your consent or if we believe we have a legitimate interest to contact you based on your contact or question.
  • Information from you from a co-branded offer. In this case, we will make clear as to who is collecting the information and whose privacy policy applies. If both / all parties are retaining the information you provide, this will also be made clear as will links to all privacy policies.

Please note that the information above (“Personal Data”) that you are giving to us is voluntarily, and by providing this information to us, you are giving consent for us to use, collect, and process this Personal Data. You are welcome to opt-out or request for us to delete your Personal Data at any point by contacting us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

If you choose not to provide us with certain Personal Data, you may not be able to participate in certain aspects of our Website or content.

Other Information We May Collect:

Anonymous Data Collection and Use
To maintain Website quality, we may use your IP address to help diagnose problems with our server, to administer the Website by identifying which areas of the Website are most heavily used, and to display content according to your preferences. Your IP address is the number assigned to computers connected to the Internet. This is essentially “traffic data” which cannot personally identify you but is helpful to us for marketing purposes and for improving our services. Traffic data collection does not follow a user’s activities on any other websites in any way. Anonymous traffic data may also be shared with business partners and advertisers on an aggregate basis.

Use of “Cookies”
We may use the standard “cookies” feature of major web browsers. We do not set any personally identifiable information in cookies, nor do we employ any data-capture mechanisms on our Website other than cookies. You may choose to disable cookies through your own web browser’s settings. However, disabling this function may diminish your experience on our Website and some features may not work as intended.

What We Do With Information We Collect

Contact You

We may contact you with information that you provide to us based on these lawful grounds for processing:

  • We may contact you if you give us your clear, unambiguous, affirmative consent to contact you.
  • We will contact you under our contractual obligation to deliver goods or services you purchase from us.
  • Legitimate Interest. We may contact you if we feel you have a legitimate interest in hearing from us. For example, if you sign up for a webinar, we may send you marketing emails based on the content of that webinar.  You will always have the option to opt out of any of our emails.

Process Payments
We will use the Personal Data you give to us in order to process your payment for the purchase of goods or services under a contract. We only use third party payment processors that take the utmost care in securing data and comply with the GDPR.

Targeted Social Media Advertisements
We may use the data you provide to us to run social media advertisements and / or create look-alike audiences for advertisements.

Share with Third Parties
We may share your information with trusted third parties such as our newsletter provider in order to contact you via email, our merchant accounts to process payments, and Google / social media accounts in order to run advertisements and our affiliates.

Viewing by Others
Note that whenever you voluntarily make your Personal Data available for viewing by others online through this Website or its content, it may be seen, collected and used by others, and therefore, we cannot be responsible for any unauthorized or improper use of the information that you voluntarily share (i.e., sharing a comment on a blog post, posting in a Facebook group that we manage, sharing details on a group coaching call, etc.).

Submission, Storage, Sharing and Transferring of Personal Data
Personal Data that you provide to us is stored internally or through a data management system. Your Personal Data will only be accessed by those who help to obtain, manage, or store that information, or who have a legitimate need to know such Personal Data (i.e., our hosting provider, newsletter provider, payment processors, or team members).

It is important to note that we may transfer data internationally. For users in the European Union, please be aware that we transfer Personal Data outside of the European Union. By using our Website and providing us with your Personal Data, you consent to these transfers in accordance with this Privacy Policy.

Data Retention
We retain your Personal Data for the minimum amount of time necessary to provide you with the information and / or services that you requested from us. We may include certain Personal Data for longer periods of time if necessary for legal, contractual, and accounting obligations.

Confidentiality
We aim to keep the Personal Data that you share with us confidential. Please note that we may disclose such information if required to do so by law or in the good-faith belief that: (1) such action is necessary to protect and defend our rights or property or those of our users or licensees, (2) to act as immediately necessary in order to protect the personal safety or rights of our users or the public, or (3) to investigate or respond to any real or perceived violation of this Privacy Policy or of our Disclaimer, Terms and Conditions, or any other terms of use or agreement with us.

Passwords
To use certain features of the Website or its content, you may need a username and password. You are responsible for maintaining the confidentiality of the username and password, and you are responsible for all activities, whether by you or by others, that occur under your username or password and within your account. We cannot and will not be liable for any loss or damage arising from your failure to protect your username, password, or account information. If you share your username or password with others, they may be able to obtain access to your Personal Data at your own risk.

You agree to notify us immediately of any unauthorized or improper use of your username or password or any other breach of security. To help protect against unauthorized or improper use, make sure that you log out at the end of each session requiring your username and password.

We will use our best efforts to keep your username and password(s) private and will not otherwise share your password(s) without your consent, except as necessary when the law requires it or in the good faith belief that such action is necessary, particularly when disclosure is necessary to identify, contact, or bring legal action against someone who may be causing injury to others or interfering with our rights or property.

How You Can Access, Update, or Delete Your Personal Data

You have the right to:

  • Request information about how your Personal Data is being used and request a copy of what Personal Data we use.
  • Restrict processing if you think the Personal Data is not accurate, unlawful, or no longer needed.
  • Rectify or erase Personal Data and receive confirmation of the rectification or erasure. (You have the “right to be forgotten.”)
  • Withdraw your consent at any time to the processing of your Personal Data.
  • Lodge a complaint with a supervisory authority if you feel we are using your Personal Data unlawfully.
  • Receive Personal Data portability and transference to another controller without our hindrance.
  • Object to our use of your Personal Data.
  • Not be subject to an automated decision based solely on automatic processing, including profiling, which legally or significantly affects you.

You may unsubscribe from our emails or updates at any time through the unsubscribe link at the footer of all email communications. If you have questions or are experiencing problems unsubscribing, please contact us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

Security
We take commercially reasonable steps to protect the Personal Data you provide to us from misuse, disclosure, or unauthorized access. We only share your Personal Data with trusted third parties who use the same level of care in processing your Personal Data. That being said, we cannot guarantee that your Personal Data will always be secure due to technology or security breaches. Should there be a data breach of which we are aware, we will inform you immediately.

Anti-Spam Policy
We have a no spam policy and provide you with the ability to opt-out of our communications by selecting the unsubscribe link at the footer of all emails. We have taken the necessary steps to ensure that we are compliant with the CAN-SPAM Act of 2003 by never sending out misleading information. We will not sell, rent, or share your email address.

Third Party Websites
We may link to other websites on our Website. We have no responsibility or liability for the content and activities of any other individual, company, or entity whose website or materials may be linked to our Website or its content, and thus we cannot be held liable for the privacy of the information on their website or that you voluntarily share with their website. Please review their privacy policies for guidelines as to how they respectively store, use, and protect the privacy of your Personal Data.

Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act Compliance
We do not collect any information from anyone under 18 years of age in compliance with COPPA (Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act) and the GDPR (General Data Protection Regulation of the EU). Our Website and its content is directed to individuals who are at least 18 years old or older.

Notification of Changes
We may use your Personal Data, such as your contact information, to inform you of changes to the Website or its content, or, if requested, to send you additional information about us. We reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to change, modify, or otherwise alter our Website, its content, and this Privacy Policy at any time. Such changes and/or modifications shall become effective immediately upon posting our updated Privacy Policy. Please review this Privacy Policy periodically. Continued use of any of information obtained through or on the Website or its content following the posting of changes and/or modifications constituted acceptance of the revised Privacy Policy. Should there be a material change to our Privacy Policy, we will contact you via email or by a prominent note on our Website.

Data Controller and Processors
We are the data controllers as we are collecting and using your Personal Data. We use trusted third parties as our data processors for technical and organizational purposes, including for payments and email marketing. We use reasonable efforts to make sure our data processors are GDPR-compliant.If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, please contact us at graeme@graemeseabrook.com

Last Updated: January 2025

Micro-Revolutions In Motherhood

I believe in the power of small changes.
January 17, 2025

This was originally published on my old blog in May 2021. 

There is no doubt in my mind that we need more than one revolution to create a world that is worthy of our children. Looking around at the world through their eyes sometimes I can see only what’s wrong, what’s broken, what I don’t want for them. I see massive systemic issues that affect us on global, national, regional, and local scales. It’s overwhelming — and yet I have two small people who are looking to me to make things right for them. 

And the truth is that I can’t. I cannot fix this world. I cannot save it. 

So what can I do?

The place where I have the most power is in our home and so that’s where I use my power first. Adam and I have both been extremely intentional in how we model adulthood for our kids.

We’re honest about our fuckups. We ask each other for help. We share our feelings. We disagree in front of them and we talk things through in front of them. And so our kids already know, at 5 and 8 years old, that adults don’t know everything. Parents aren’t perfect. They know that when you’re struggling, you ask for help. They know that asking for support isn’t weak. 

Refusing perfectionism 

This refusal to chase perfectionism is a direct refutation of capitalism and white supremacy and how they affect who gets support in our country. Our kids are now at an age where we can be even more explicit about that when we talk about larger issues. The groundwork has been laid. If no one has to earn care or rest in our home then why should they have to earn it outside our home? 

I won’t lie to them and say that people don’t have to earn those things outside our home, because they do. But what I can do is say and show our children that that is wrong. That there is another way. That supporting and caring for others is a part of being human and that so is needing the support and care of others. 

This has grown outwards to become a family project — the paper bag project. The kids decorate paper bags, and we fill them with clean socks, a little cash, a bottle of water, a snack, menstruation products, and painkillers (Tylenol, Motrin, whatever we have at hand). Then those bags go into the car and whenever we see a person who needs a bag, we give them a bag. 

It’s a small thing, yes. And it reinforces the idea that all people are people and all people deserve whatever support we can give — in big ways and small ways. It’s not perfect, it doesn’t meet the full need, and still it’s better than being stuck in overwhelm. 

These are micro-revolutions

This is what I mean by a micro-revolution. A small change in thought that leads to further changes in both thought and action. Sometimes these are conscious choices we make and sometimes they’re thrust upon us by circumstance and the choice is in how we deal with those circumstances. 

I have PTSD, depression, and anxiety — and sometimes that leads to panic attacks or depression spirals. My mental illnesses have always manifested physically, so my panic attacks include sweating, dizziness, nausea, and shakes. My depression shows itself as fatigue, full-body aches, and migraines. These are things that I could try and mask and hide from the kids — and in the beginning, I did that. But it didn’t work. Children are far more attuned to their parents than we generally give them credit for. 

And so I stopped hiding and started being honest. “Mommy is scared. There isn’t anything to be scared of, but I can’t really stop being scared right now.” They see how Adam reacts to me, how he asks what I need, how he doesn’t judge, how he respects what I say. And they repeat those actions — with me and with others. 

When my son was in kindergarten, a classmate got overwhelmed and anxious and was sitting in a corner, crying. He went over and sat next to them and said, “It’s okay. You’re safe. I’ll just sit here with you.” It was exactly what his dad said to me. His teacher was amazed.

In first grade, it was my son who was getting overwhelmed. He couldn’t sit still in class and he’d get scared out of nowhere and hide under the desk or run to the bathroom and hide there. But again, his teacher and counselors were amazed at how sophisticated his language about his feelings was. And they were also shocked that after the crisis passed he would reintegrate into the classroom so easily. He had no shame around his needs, even when he was scared. 

We eventually got a diagnosis - anxiety and ADHD - and he started therapy. I’d been going to a “feelings doctor” all of his life, so it didn’t bother him to go to one, too. 

There’s so much messaging about what ‘becoming a man’ is and what boys do and don’t do. There are layers of stigma attached to mental illness and neurodivergence, especially in the Black community. I can’t protect him from being exposed to those. But I do know that he has a firm base from which to combat them. 

The power of small changes

On Fridays, Adam does the laundry. Well, he starts it on Friday and it usually gets finished at some point over the weekend. We all help to fold things and put them away, but it’s his thing. So much so that my daughter announced when she was newly 5 years old that she didn’t want to ever marry a girl because if you marry a girl then you have to wash the clothes. We tried to point out that whoever married her would also be marrying a girl, but that didn’t seem to matter. Pro tip- do not try to use logic on a five-year-old when they have made up their mind. 

My little family cannot smash the patriarchy. It’s too big and we’re four people. We can, however, not reinforce gender roles inside our home. We can redefine “normal”. We can spark micro-revolutions.

It happens when I thank Adam for ordering the school supplies in front of the kids. It happens when I tell them I’m tired and am going to lie down. It happens when we ask for our friends’ pronouns and use them. It happens when we admit our mistakes and ask for help. It happens when Adam does the meal planning or when I drive us on long trips. It’s in the books we choose to read with them and the shows we choose to watch with them and the way we talk with them. 

I believe in the power of small changes. I believe in the power of moms to create micro-revolutions in our homes. And I believe that if we all choose even one thing we want to change that we can start pebbles rolling that will turn to boulders that can shake the earth. 

What do you want for your children?

If your children ever decide to parent, what is the experience of parenting that you want for them? Stop for a moment and think about it, try to visualize it or feel it. Now, the question is, are you modeling that? 

In between the way you experience parenting and the way you hope your children experience it are a million micro-revolutions for you to choose. 

The space between the world we live in and the world we hope for our children is filled with a billion micro-revolutions for you to choose. 

Choose one.

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